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The New Dating Service "The League" is the Absolute Worst. Here's Why.

The New Dating Service "The League" is the Absolute Worst. Here's Why.

So let me tell you about a terrible dating service/app that is apparently coming to my city, Boston, called “The League“.


After years of casually swiping right in hopes of making a connection, singles must apply to join The League, and only the most accomplished and ambitious are able to join the service.

Sounds elitist, right? The founders prefer another term: “equalist.”

It doesn’t SOUND elitist, it IS elitist.

“favoring, advocating, or restricted to an elite.”

“a select part of a group that is superior to the rest in terms of ability or qualities.”

Guys, that’s how words work. You are literally restricting your pool of people to a subset that you deem superior to the rest of humanity based on certain abilities or qualities. Come on.

But don’t worry, it wasn’t born in Boston. No, even worse, it was born in San Francisco. Because of course it was.

Silicon Valley tech people live in an alternate reality where it’s OK to have discriminatory hiring practices, and they think it’s important to spend time figuring out how they can live forever, while people in this country and all over the world starve to death, are literally slaves, fight just to get a basic education, (I mean, have you heard of Malala, folks?) and die from things that are entirely preventable. But yes, by all means, let’s work on extending life for rich a$$holes, so we can listen to them explain why the rest of us aren’t worthy for even longer. But I digress.

Let’s look at some of the grossest parts of this article. A student at Stanford, which is the alma mater of the founder (Amanda Bradford), wrote “Does it even cross your mind that you are endorsing the idea that wealth, class and privilege determine a person’s character?”

Bradford has responded to these criticisms, and maintains that the app includes a diverse group of users who happen to share the same drive for success.

That to me translates to “Our group is a very diverse group of people who are all essentially the same! But look, this guy parts his hair on the left and this one on the right! See? Diversity!”


She also says:

“I think it’s one of those things where if you actually think about how you [find a partner], you’ll realize that a lot of it stems from university and where you work,” she said. “Both of those are curated environments that include applications.”

I would like to explain to Bradford that most likely, any college or university campus and any office/workplace holds a more diverse group of people than her service. I mean, in a company, if you are the VP of whatever, you actually have to interact with people like admin assistants, facility managers, and accountants. You don’t just hang out in a room with only other VPs like it’s a private effing club.

At a time when many successful women make more money than the people they date, The League narrows the dating pool to those who are interested in — and open to — women whose resumes and ambition match their own. (The implication there is that those heterosexual men are not always easy to find.)

Let me tell you something, sweetheart: narrowing your field to only people who consider themselves to be of the highest and most excellent caliber in all things is not going to make it more likely that you find men who don’t have a problem with their egos. That’s a free tip from me to you. You’re welcome.

I mean there are just so many problems here I don’t even think it’s worth listing them all, I’d have to quote the entire article. When they don’t think they have enough artists they “reach out to the Broadway community”. OK, got it, ELITE artists only. Screw you other artists, whose art may in fact be better than the people on Broadway (and/or whose art may not be of the acting/musical variety), because the right elite jerkoff hasn’t noticed you yet. You are, therefore, entirely worthless as a lifemate.

FYI none of these stats about the Boston crew is impressing me with its diversity:

“Three percent of the 2,000 members work for management consulting firm Bain & Co. Nine percent live in Telegraph Hill in South Boston. A full ten percent went to Harvard.”

You’re literally bragging about how many of your people are the same.


Let me tell you something, Ms. Bradford, as a 40 year old woman in America and specifically in Boston – you do not need to limit your pool to find good dates, friends, and people worth associating with, you need to EXPAND it. Neither San Francisco nor Boston has a problem of being “too diverse” or “too integrated”. If I limited myself to only associating with people who went to the same kind of school I did or held the same kind of job I did, I wouldn’t even know many of the most important and wonderful people in my life. Including literally every person I have ever dated. You are absolutely unequivocally doing it wrong. And just because people are clamoring to get into your exclusive club doesn’t mean you’re helping anybody. You are patently incorrect on every level. I eagerly await the day the floor falls out from under you and this nonsense burns to the ground.



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Jenn Martinelli

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  1. Sheri

    I think this is a great and interesting read. I agree with you completely. What a horrible way to exlude people.

    • Cider

      Thank you, it really is gross. I thought it was a prank when I first saw something about it. How can this be real?

    • Cider

      Thank you for reading and validating my disgust!

  2. womanpulse

    It surprises me that so many want to join to be honest. Seems as if they haven’t done research. Honestly I can’t see lasting success with it and it makes me sad to see the turn this country has taken in dividing people.

    • Cider

      I agree, I feel like people will scramble to get into it at first like trying to be the “cool kids” in high school but it won’t last because it’s too exclusive and awful – so most people can’t use it, and the people that can will get sick of themselves. Ha.

  3. Amber Myers

    Huh? That app sounds all sorts of crazy. No thank you! I’d stay away from it, that’s for sure.

    • Cider

      Yeah I kind of wish I could infiltrate it from the inside, but I’m sure I’m not elite enough – ha ha ha – and I don’t think I could stand the constant feeling of vomiting I’m sure it would induce.

  4. Beth Shankle Anderson

    Thank you for bringing attention to this disgusting so-called “service”. It’s amazing what people call legitimate these days.

    • Cider

      It really is. ????

  5. Imaobong

    Lol funny how they still get people willing to join in 😀

  6. royaltyinreality

    I can’t believe this is actually a thing. Its founders should be ashamed of themselves.

  7. Julie Maloney

    I can’t even imagine the brand of a$$hole a site like that would dump on my lap if I were to date. Foo foo tightwad snobs. Let them all have each other. So glad I’m married.

  8. MyYellowApron

    I’m not into dating scene for close to 15 years now (I know!!).., but great to know about this site from you. I should warn my friends

  9. Shane

    Oh wow I don’t think I’d even want to be a part of this kind of site… Imagine the pretentious people you’d have to date!

  10. Mihaela Echols

    Ummm weird just weird. what’s the matter with people

  11. Janine

    Dating apps already sound weird to me. Having elitist groups irks me anyway. They have been around since the beginning of time as you see them being played up in old sitcoms. People are so weird with such exclusivity.

  12. Kimberly C.

    Wow, what an awful app. Talk about excluding people…. So glad I’m married ha ha

  13. Hey Sharonoox

    This sounds like a scary site!

  14. crystal

    Terrible that dating apps are excluding people like this.

  15. katrinajeancarter

    Wow. Whatever floats their boat, I guess. I find this app appaling but I’m sure to some it is a huge convenience.

  16. Kari Ann

    Wow, I am so glad I don’t need a dating app and if I did would not be using that one.

  17. Bigscrod wants cake

    I had a friend who was rejected by eHarmony, guess he woildn’t pass muster here, either. He finally found someone by actually leaving his apartment and being around other people.

  18. Divya @ Eat. Teach. Blog.

    Wait. My friend told me about this app over TWO YEARS AGO. We both quickly signed up to be one of the first of many on their “waitlist” but we were never actually accepted.

    Since then, I met and married my husband and I deleted all my dating sites and I STILL haven’t gotten an e-mail from them. HAHAHA. This is just crazy.

  19. lipstickandpuppykisses

    I can’t believe how creepy people can be! Great and informative post to help warn others! (10 points for using Inigo Montoya photo!!)

  20. Jennifer L Johnson

    I have not heard of this app before!!! That is crazy online dating is hard enough but wow to have to be a certain level to join is crazy.

  21. lex

    hahahah, alot on dating services, this is totally strange to me but now i have a double thought as to the whole idea. easy society but most times filled with difficult people and ideas.

  22. Lisa Rios

    I think we have so many dating sites and app these days where you are going to find one that is really worthy to try out. The League sounds like another crap on the crowded list we have and I really wonder how some people accept such silly concepts & go ahead!

    • Cider

      I could not agree more.

  23. Abigail

    Another ridiculous app in a sea of ridiculous dating apps.

  24. Elizabeth O.

    I don’t get it with these dating apps! I think it’s okay to up the bar when it comes to looking for dates but not like this! It’s important to consider that you’re looking for an actual human being that has flaws and is not defined by the money inside his or her wallet.

  25. Marceline Dementori

    The dating sites these days are getting more and more annoying. This sounds like a total disappointment. How would you even like the people here if they’re just out to discriminate.

  26. Annie

    Omg this post made me laugh so much. This is exactly what I expect to happen on dating apps so I refuse to sign on any of them.


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